Overcompensation is a defense mechanism wherein individuals attempt to mask their perceived weaknesses or insecurities by exhibiting the opposite behavior or attitude. In the realm of intimate relationships, this can manifest as overcompensating boundaries. Such boundaries, intended to be protective, may arise from underlying fears, insecurities, or past traumas rather than from genuine personal values
Have you ever grappled with feelings of anger, disappointment, or diminished trust in your partner when they fail to honor a relationship expectation? The foundation of our sense of safety and security often lies in the promises we keep. As relationships evolve, so do our expectations about each partner's behavior and contribution. In this article,
(5-min read) A lack of self-control can lead to a variety of difficulties - from disappointment in oneself, to depression, strained relationships, and even addictive behavior. Yet while it is normal to get off task or give in to temptation, a recurring failure to exercise self-control can feel demoralizing. It can involve difficulties staying away
(4-minute read) Traumatic experiences, especially those from childhood, often lead to difficulties that appear in our romantic relationships. Those with a history of trauma often feel more comfortable keeping friends and colleagues at a distance but anxious in more intimate relationships because this strategy no longer works. And it isn’t just events from childhood. Toxic
(5 minute read) Has conflict in your marriage reached a breaking point? Have you noticed arguments getting more intense, happening more frequently, and escalating to name-calling, explosive anger, or intimidation? Are you worried about the damage caused by parents arguing in front of children or directing verbal abuse their way? Or maybe you feel like
What is Rumination? (4-minute read) Rumination is a tendency to focus on a problem or negative event. We all do this to some extent, particularly following an argument, a relationship breakup, or when faced with a dilemma. But for some, thoughts can get stuck on the problem and lead neither to action or resolution. It
(4 minute read) Do you frequently put your partners' needs before your own? Do you constantly worry about their behavior, opinions, and expectations? Do you feel responsible for fixing or managing those close to you? And do you suppress your feelings to keep the peace? If so, you may be experiencing what some call codependency
(5 minute read) After Your Spouse is Caught Cheating The discovery of an affair is painful. But learning that your partner is continuing an affair while you are trying to save your marriage is agonizing. There are immense fears around making the wrong decision or sending the wrong message. The turmoil can lead you to
(4 minute read) The ability to share our opinions and feelings with our partner is an indicator of a healthy relationship. Doing so builds a partnership that is intimate, respectful, and meaningful. It allows us to make decisions together, discuss important issues, and plan for a future. However, many couples struggle in this area. Instead
What is Dissociation? (5 minute read) Dissociation is an experience in which we feel removed from our current environment. It can range from feeling somewhat zoned out, to a disturbing unfamiliarity with our surroundings and recent behavior. The wide variety of unusual symptoms that accompany dissociation can make it extremely frightening to the person experiencing
