Lloyd Whieldon MS LPA

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Identifying and Overcoming Defensive Communication in Relationships

By |2024-02-23T07:25:54-06:00November 24th, 2023|Marriage|

Has conversation in your relationship deteriorated to a point of causing pain and discomfort? Do you find yourself grappling with the emotional strain of discussions that should be simple, yet somehow spiral into confusion and hurt? For many couples seeking therapy, this scenario is all too familiar. The root of these recurring conflicts often lies

The Fine Line Between Protective and Overcompensating Boundaries in Relationships

By |2023-11-25T10:25:53-06:00August 25th, 2023|Trauma|

Overcompensation is a defense mechanism wherein individuals attempt to mask their perceived weaknesses or insecurities by exhibiting the opposite behavior or attitude. In the realm of intimate relationships, this can manifest as overcompensating boundaries. Such boundaries, intended to be protective, may arise from underlying fears, insecurities, or past traumas rather than from genuine personal values

Exploring Why A Relationship Expectation Isn’t Always Met: Uncovering the Three Key Factors

By |2023-09-23T15:29:51-06:00June 1st, 2023|Marriage|

Have you ever grappled with feelings of anger, disappointment, or diminished trust in your partner when they fail to honor a relationship expectation? The foundation of our sense of safety and security often lies in the promises we keep. As relationships evolve, so do our expectations about each partner's behavior and contribution. In this article,

How to Improve Self Control

By |2020-09-14T21:43:17-06:00September 14th, 2020|Depression|

(5-min read) A lack of self-control can lead to a variety of difficulties - from disappointment in oneself, to depression, strained relationships, and even addictive behavior. Yet while it is normal to get off task or give in to temptation, a recurring failure to exercise self-control can feel demoralizing. It can involve difficulties staying away

Trust Issues in a Relationship

By |2023-10-17T16:21:02-06:00August 18th, 2020|Trauma|

(4-minute read) Traumatic experiences, especially those from childhood, often lead to difficulties that appear in our romantic relationships. Those with a history of trauma often feel more comfortable keeping friends and colleagues at a distance but anxious in more intimate relationships because this strategy no longer works. And it isn’t just events from childhood. Toxic

Verbal abuse in a Relationship

By |2024-04-21T07:01:40-06:00April 2nd, 2020|Marriage|

(5 minute read) Has conflict in your marriage reached a breaking point? Have you noticed arguments getting more intense, happening more frequently, and escalating to name-calling, explosive anger, or intimidation? Are you worried about the damage caused by parents arguing in front of children or directing verbal abuse their way? Or maybe you feel like

How To Stop Ruminating Thoughts

By |2020-02-25T15:02:28-06:00February 25th, 2020|Depression|

What is Rumination? (4-minute read) Rumination is a tendency to focus on a problem or negative event. We all do this to some extent, particularly following an argument, a relationship breakup, or when faced with a dilemma. But for some, thoughts can get stuck on the problem and lead neither to action or resolution. It

Codependency in Relationships

By |2023-10-17T13:01:56-06:00January 7th, 2020|Marriage|

(4 minute read) Do you frequently put your partners' needs before your own? Do you constantly worry about their behavior, opinions, and expectations? Do you feel responsible for fixing or managing those close to you? And do you suppress your feelings to keep the peace? If so, you may be experiencing what some call codependency

When Your Partner Is Having An Affair

By |2023-10-17T13:18:57-06:00December 26th, 2019|Infidelity|

(5 minute read) After Your Spouse is Caught Cheating The discovery of an affair is painful. But learning that your partner is continuing an affair while you are trying to save your marriage is agonizing. There are immense fears around making the wrong decision or sending the wrong message. The turmoil can lead you to

How To Express Feelings To Your Partner

By |2020-03-31T19:59:45-06:00October 12th, 2019|Marriage|

(4 minute read) The ability to share our opinions and feelings with our partner is an indicator of a healthy relationship. Doing so builds a partnership that is intimate, respectful, and meaningful. It allows us to make decisions together, discuss important issues, and plan for a future. However, many couples struggle in this area. Instead

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